Born and raised in Houston, Texas, I’m Avery Carrier, a Jesus-loving, free-spirited girl that aspires to reach as many people as possible through my writing, speaking and coaching!
T H E J O U R N E Y
I’m often asked: “How did you know you wanted to be a coach? How did you get started?”
I’ll start by mentioning I’ve never felt a huge aha! moment that launched me into a particular vocation. Instead, it was little monumental moments that added up over time. The process of going through the post-grad motions revealed to me that I am (allowed to be) a multi-passionate person. My job isn’t just to consider myself as a “life coach", but to operate as a coach inside all avenues that allow me to teach others what I feel called to do.
I help guide women to faithfully step out of limiting situations, and step into the authentic version of who they’re meant to be.
But here’s the story behind it:
You could say my career journey hasn’t been the easiest process. In fact, I could probably describe it to you as more of a rollercoaster ride—with a slow pace up the tracks and some thrills to the bottom. It’s been a learning process of putting the pieces together and embracing the journey. But through this, I’m able to embrace who I am in my story and who God created me to be. And to show you all the possibilities found outside of our comfort zone.
WHERE IT STARTED
You could say I’ve always had an unmatched curiosity for life even as a child. I’d spend hours reading, journaling, and writing short stories. I took my notebook everywhere. I had an active imagination, and I was ready to record whatever my mind could create. With that, I loved being in the action, and enjoyed testing my comfort zone.
THE MONUMENTAL MOMENTS
In college, one of these times I tested my comfort zone became an opportunity that changed the course of my life forever.
In 2015, I won my first-ever pageant and later competed in Miss Texas America that year. This was one of those monumental moments. Not just because it was my first time putting myself out there, but because I became passionate about something for the first time.
Through the pageant and speaking appearances, I developed a fiery passion for advocating and promoting vulnerability. I owe this passion to the battle of my past. I had scarring experiences with domestic violence and bullying, and felt like I wasn’t good enough or worthy of a greater life.
Sharing my personal testimony of abuse in front of hundreds of people for the first time was the most terrifying, yet most liberating experience of my entire life. It actually birthed my platform “Strength Over Silence”, giving silent victims a voice. I felt convicted in purpose. To inspire others that you can shine and thrive in brokenness.
From then on, I learned that ground-breaking changes will happen the moment you decide to step out of your comfort zone. And that became the mantra of my life.
Once I graduated with my business degree, I felt called to continue my mission of advocating and helping others. I haven’t written much since childhood, but I took a leap of faith and turned my platform into an empowerment blog. I’d use it to write about life challenges and seasons that shaped me into who I am today. To show others that no matter what they’re going through, they’re not alone in the battle.
Almost two years later, and I’m still working to build what was just a blog into a community, movement, and brand known as #SOS.
But let’s get this straight…it hasn’t been all sunshine and rainbows. I faced harsh realities and limitations against my goals.
I FELT STUCK.
Just as I mentioned a roller coaster slowly going up the tracks—I felt stuck in the tracks.
After graduation and the launch of my blog, I entered the corporate world and found myself discouraged and unhappy. I didn’t have time for my blog because of the hours I worked. I felt like something was missing, and I felt made for more.
Later I was laid off, and as much as I was relieved, I was confused. I was forced to re-evaluate my life path and career.
During the disheartening job process, I had seen two life coaches that helped direct my path. I felt drawn to Life Coaching, and eagerly looked into the process of becoming a coach myself. The more I looked into it, the more I felt pulled and convicted. But within that same time, I faced opposition.
You know when you feel stuck between moving forward and staying in the same place? Just like a rollercoaster, when you’re about to reach the top. Before the big drop you frantically second guess your decision of why you even got on the ride in the first place. . . My situation was similar in context.
I felt conflicted between what society considered “normal” and conventional in life after college, versus the calling I felt in my heart. But I so badly wanted to please my family, God, myself, and society.
So there I was, stuck in the “in-between.” In-between the battle of the opposing voices (or thoughts) that played out in my head for months. I felt indecisive and stuck in fear of disapproval. I had to evaluate what mattered more: to listen to everyone else, or to honor my own path.
I MADE A DECISION
Prayer after prayer, I finally decided to end the indecisiveness. I no longer wanted to let limitations and anxiety define me and what I’m capable of. So I created a new mantra that became the theme of my journey:
Instead of acting in order to please other people (and seek their approval or protection), I choose to act in order to fulfill my own sense of purpose.
I knew I either had to make the decision to walk away from my dreams, or GO ALL IN.
And after walking away once, I came back more convicted than ever before. This happened only after I gave myself permission to follow my own journey and embrace the ride. And now I am honored to coach people like you to do the same, and to share this message with you:
Whether you’re feeling stuck in your path or in the ‘in-between’, urging to find your purpose; or if you’re holding onto fear of disapproval of what others might think, and unsure of who you’re meant to be—you’ve come to the right place. As a Life Coach, mentor, or friend—I’m here to help you cross the barrier that’s holding you back. I’m here to help you fill the gap between where you are now, and where you dream of being. And to show you that there is grace in the process of figuring this crazy, unpredictable “life” thing out. Remember: Peace > Pressure.